Does the question everyone’s been asking me have anything to do with the trophy in the picture above? Nope, no it doesn’t but I’ll come back to why this photo was chosen later. But first, the real question.
During meet-ups, events and via text I keep getting asked the same question. “How do you keep going? I mean how do you just keep pushing through it all?”
I guess what the questioner is asking is, how do I get through the tough times or my hardest days with my work? I’m assuming that’s what they mean because after all, choosing to do something creative for a career has its hard days, sometimes with doubt, sometimes with frustration and even with fear. But I guess it only seems scary when you choose to magnify these emotions.
My answer to this question always comes back to a place of love I have in my heart for my dream. A dream that I’ve been actively pursuing since I was a little girl. But I guess the real hard work and Rocky-mode towards the dream-plan actually came into action when I was about 18 or 19 years old.
So, what do I observe when I’m asked “how do you keep going?”
The first thing I notice is the person’s state and the feeling that comes over when they ask me this. I notice how somehow, somewhere along the way, they’ve stopped believing.
In my book that’s a big no-no. (By the way I haven’t published a book yet, that was just a metaphorical book I was referring to).
The moment you start to give up on what you believe in for yourself, you start to let that vision of your best-self slip away and that’s when the downfall begins.
After all, all goals, dreams and visions begin with one thing and that is the power of belief. If you truly believe in something you will, no matter what, keep that feeling as your fuel which will consequently propel you to take more action and work towards making your goal a living reality.
The second thing I notice about this question is the impatience or desperation in finding an answer outside of themselves. That’s the second mistake, fooling yourself into thinking that the answer is outside of you. I guess one could argue that maybe the answers do lie outside of ourselves in our idols or role models we can use to model ourselves on. Yet, I choose to believe in myself and turn to my inner-self only. Much like Bruce Lee, I believe that the answers lie within us and that is the only voice that will guide us out of a place of confusion or mist.
“No matter what, you must let your inner light guide you out of the darkness.” – Bruce Lee
This quote is as true for when you first start to walk away from your vision to when you’re completely off your chosen path. It is important to constantly remind yourself WHY you’re pursuing your path and why it is SO important to YOU and only YOU.
Key word, ‘you’.
That’s where you’ll find the answers to your questions you’re hoping for others to answer for you. Everyone can only speak as far as they’ve experienced and processed but in order to fulfil that heart’s answer you need to go inwards and ask your heart…and that is where you will find the answer you were hoping, yearning and looking for.
On the topic of impatience, I guess this could be point two or three as it feels like it comes over as a mixed bag of emotions. What impatience has taught me is that it will take over your best self. It will take over your wise self. What I’ve learned from my journey so far is that my best moments and milestones have met me when I was ready, and most importantly was the right person, to receive them.
Had I earned those merits earlier in my timeline I would not have processed them in the same way due to a progress in perspective. Also, I would not have perhaps valued them as much as the times my achievements crept up on me and surprised me. I guess wonderful-work/life moments shouldn’t be a surprise when that is all you are striving for. Yet conversely, it can be a surprise because there comes a point when you stop working towards a trophy or a title and I believe that point comes when you are one with yourself.
When you find an inner peace.
A marriage of who you know you are and who you want to be that have already merged as one before you’ve even reached that stage in your outer reality.
I guess my answer of how to get through a hard day/phase of work-life is to do the inner work because it always blooms on the outside too. Now, quickly back to the trophies in the picture above. Why this photo, why the trophy?
Because this trophy to me is a memento of me not giving up. It reminds me of crossing one of many life’s finish lines. This trophy does not define me, but it reminds me of how much more is yet to come and I can only achieve that when I am on my own team.
So, to everyone who has asked how do I keep going?
I do not give up on myself.
I do not give up on little Dilpreet who saw herself in Disney’s Hercules when he sang ‘I can go the distance’ on a cliff.
I do not give up on that little girl because she could see who I have the potential to be when I grow up…and I haven’t come this far to give up, on her or, the vision she saw for me.
I owe it all to her and I guess to the Disney/PIXAR team behind the many movies that have helped me believe in the best-me. Thank you.
The power of belief will push you in ways you cannot imagine so do not give up on the magic inside of you. That is your personal power, your personal magic that will be your fuel for the rest of your life. Keep believing. You are already everything you will ever need.